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A lot of the meaning that people find in their life is purpose driven.
人们在生活中找到的很多意义都是由目的驱动的。
And in order to put effort into something, to work towards something, you have to assume axiomatically that what you're working towards is better than what you have because why else would you do it?
为了将精力投入到某件事情中，为某件事情而努力，你必须假设你所努力的东西比你所拥有的更好，不然你又何必要努力呢？
And there's a relationship like if it's way better than what you have it's obviously proportionally difficult so you try to balance difficulty with positivity let's say, something like that.
它们之间存在一种关系，比如，如果它比你所拥有的要好得多，显然相应的也会更难，所以你要努力平衡难度和积极性之类的。
But you're always aiming up if you're aiming.
但如果你有目标的话，你总是在往上看。
And if you're not aiming then you don't really have any purpose and that deprives your life of meaning and that's not a good.
如果你没有目标，那么你就没有真正的目的，这就剥夺了你生活的意义，这并非好事。
Because if your life is deprived of meaning then what you're left with is the suffering.
因为如果你的生活被剥夺了意义，那么你剩下的就是痛苦。
That's not neutral, it's negative.
这不是中性的，是负面的。
There our three forces that are at fundamental war with one another all the time: There's the job quality, the job satisfaction, the inherent attributes of the job.
我们有三种力量，它们一直在相互争斗：工作质量、工作满意度、工作的内在属性。
And that is are you working on something fundamentally important and meaningful?
即你是否在做一些非常重要和有意义的工作？
Are you learning? Are you growing?
你在学习吗？你在成长吗？
Are you working with people who you can really like and respect?
你是否与那些你真正喜欢和尊重的人一起工作？
Is the culture something you're very comfortable with? Then there's money, of course.
公司文化是你非常喜欢的吗？当然，还有钱的因素。
Compensation sometimes is at very much odds with something that is generally meaningful or creative or fundamentally interesting and how do you weigh the differences between looking to make the kind of money that will help you pay back student loans, much less live the lifestyle you want to live.
有时候薪资与一般有意义的、有创意的或非常有趣的工作完全不符，你如何权衡它与赚取能够帮你偿还学生贷款的工资之间的差距，更不用说让你过上想过的生活。
And actually, speaking of lifestyle, that's the third dimension, lifestyle.
实际上，说到生活方式，这就是第三个层面，生活方式。
Lifestyle is where you want to live and where you want to work.
生活方式就是你想住在哪里，想在哪里工作。
How much your work schedule is in your control, control of your work schedule.
你的工作日程有多少是你可以控制的，对你的工作日程的控制。
How much flexibility to take vacations? Do you have to commute? And how were your actual hours?
休假的灵活性有多大？你必须要通勤上下班吗？以及你的实际工作时间是多长？
So, if you think about those three points in what I call the career triangle, job satisfaction, money and lifestyle, it's relatively easy to maximize one point on the triangle and it's often okay to maximize the second, but usually the third point slips.
因此，如果你考虑到我所说的职业三角中的这三点，工作满意度、薪资和生活方式，相对来说，将三角中的一点最大化是很容易的，将第二点最大化往往也是可以的，但通常第三点会滑落。
You can have it all, those three dimensions, but not necessarily at the same time, and certainly not in your first job or two or three coming out of college.
这三个方面你可以同时拥有，但不一定在同一时间，当然也不可能在你大学毕业后的第一份或第二份或第三份工作中出现。
It's okay to be honest with yourself to say what are the most important things to me now.
告诉自己在当下，对我来说什么是最重要的事情，诚实一点，没关系的。
And by the way, over your life when you're in your 20s, when you're in your 30s, when you're raising a family, the weighting on those three points can and actually will shift and actually knowing that will help you make good career decisions over the course of your career.
顺便说一下，在你的一生中，当你20多岁时，当你30多岁时，当你养家糊口时，这三点的权重可以而且实际上会发生变化，其实明白这一点将有助于你在职业生涯中做出良好的职业决定。
It's helpful to have a goal, it's necessary to have a hierarchy.
有目标是有帮助的，有等级制度也是必要的。
It's not particularly useful to compare yourself to other people, but it is useful to compare yourself to yourself.
拿自己跟别人比较没什么好处，但拿自己跟自己比是很有帮助的。
That's the right baseline, that takes everything else into account and it's really practically useful.
这才是正确的基线，将其他一切都考虑在内，而且真的很有实际意义。
And I've done this in my clinical practice very frequently it's like okay let's take stock of where you are and then let's hypothesize about where you would like to be.
我在临床实践中经常这样做，比如，我们来评估一下你现在的情况，然后假设一个你想达到的目标。
It's a complex conversation because we want to figure out what's not so good about your present situation exactly, precisely, and then come up with a hypothesis about what your life would look like if it was better and then we can work on incremental improvement.
这是一个复杂的对话，因为我们要准确地弄清楚你现在的情况有哪些不尽如人意之处，然后提出一个假设，如果你的生活变得更好，你的生活会是什么样子，然后我们可以据此逐步改善。
There's some steps you can take that you would take that would make today or tomorrow fractionally better than yesterday.
你可以采取一些措施，让今天或明天比昨天好一点。
And then you can iterate that and that's actually unbelievably powerful.
你可以迭代，这实际上有令人难以置信的强大效果。
You hit the effect of compounding interest let's say very, very rapidly if you do that.
如果你这样做，你就会非常、非常迅速地实现复利效果。
So, there's real utility in incremental progress and you don't have to improve your life much in increments to start hitting the effect of compounding interest.
因此，渐进式的进步有真正的效用，你不必在渐进中改善你的生活，就可以开始发挥复利的效果。
You make one thing slightly better and that increases the probability that you'll make the next thing slightly better as well as having its positive side effects.
你把一件事做得稍微好一点，就会增加你把下一件事做得稍微好一点的概率，同时也会产生积极的副作用。
And so, even if you make small steps forward and you do that regularly that can turn your life around very rapidly over like a one to two year period.
因此，即使你向前迈出一小步，并且经常这样做，也可以在一到两年的时间内迅速改变你的生活。
I mean that's a long time one to two years, but it's not a lifetime, and it certainly beats the hell out of going downhill precipitously, which tends to be the alternative.
我的意思是，一到两年是很长的时间，但它不是一生，而且它肯定比走下坡路要好，人们往往会做出这种选择。
