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How do you know if someone is as mature as they appear?
你怎么知道一个人是否像他们看起来那样成熟?
Is your grandpa Frank really as wise as he says?
你爷爷弗兰克真的像他说的那样聪明吗?
Although we often associate maturity with age, there is also emotional maturity to consider as well.
虽然我们经常把成熟与年龄联系在一起，但也需要考虑情感成熟。
You don’t need to be in your seventies to be emotionally mature or wise.
你不需要在70多岁时才能在情感上成熟或明智。
Some people can be well into their adult life, yet they lack the maturity of some of their younger counterparts.
有些人可以很好地步入他们的成年生活，但他们缺乏一些年轻同龄人的成熟度。
So how can you tell if someone is really mature & wise?
那么，你如何判断一个人是否真的成熟和明智呢?
Here are seven signs someone is truly mature.
以下是一个人真正成熟的七个迹象。
ONE: Their Choices Are Based on Their Character instead of their Feelings
一:他们的选择是基于他们的性格而不是他们的感觉
Do you let your emotions get the best of you?Does this often result in poor decisions?
你是否让你的情绪控制了你? 这是否经常导致错误的决定?
Those who are emotionally mature base most of their choices on their character as opposed to their feelings.
那些情感成熟的人，他们的选择大多是基于他们的性格而不是他们的感情。
They take time to assess the situation and evaluate.
他们需要时间来评估情况和进行评价。
They have a set of values they live by, and it’s these values that take the lead rather than a sudden negative emotion.
他们有一套他们赖以生存的价值观，正是这些价值观起了主导作用，而不是突然产生的负面情绪。
It’s their character that ends up controlling their emotions.
是他们的性格最终控制了他们的情绪。
They simply need to remember who they are and what they stand for to calm down any biased feelings that can contribute to poor decision-making.
他们只需要记住他们是谁，以及他们代表什么，以平息任何可能导致决策失误的偏见情绪。
TWO: They Are Patient
二:他们有耐心
Patience is a virtue. Well, it certainly is for the wise.
耐心是一种美德。 这当然是给聪明人的。
If you’re mature, you realize that large goals often take a good amount of time and effort to achieve.
如果你成熟了，你会意识到大的目标往往需要花费大量的时间和精力才能实现。
Those who are mature will work hard to get what they want, but they also understand that they can’t get it done at the drop of a hat.
成熟的人会为了得到自己想要的东西而努力工作，但他们也明白，他们不可能一蹴而就。
Good things often take time.
好事往往需要时间。
And because of their patience, they often realize that everyone else has their own troubles and conflicts to deal with as well.
由于他们抱有耐心，他们常常意识到他人也有自己的麻烦和冲突要处理。
This leads to them being patient with others as well.
这使得他们对别人也很有耐心。
THREE: They Keep Long-term Commitments & Promises
三:他们信守长期承诺
A promise is a promise, and it’d be wise to see through with the promises you make.
承诺就是承诺，明智的做法是兑现你所做的承诺。
When a mature person makes a commitment, they keep it.
当一个成熟的人做出承诺时，他们会遵守。
When feelings of motivation are no longer present, they don’t let that stop them.
当动力不再存在时，他们不会让这种感觉阻止他们。
They push through any feelings of frustration or boredom because they know the reward awaits at the finish line.
他们克服任何沮丧或无聊的感觉，因为他们知道奖励在终点线等待着他们。
Gratification comes later, but it’s well worth it to them.
满足感会延迟，但这对他们来说是非常值得的。
FOUR: They Actively Listen More & Talk Less
四：他们积极地多听少说
People value those who actively listen in a conversation.
人们重视那些积极倾听谈话的人。
Those who engage back with them and respond with thoughtful ideas that add value to the conversation.
那些与他们进行互动，会用深思熟虑的想法回应他们的人，为对话增加了价值。
They don’t just focus on what their response will be and when they’ll get a chance to share it.
他们不只是关注他们的回应会是什么，以及他们什么时候有机会分享。
Instead, they take into account the other individual’s point and use it to give a thoughtful response.
相反，他们会考虑对方的观点，并据此做出深思熟虑的回应。
This makes for much more interesting discussions that lead to understanding each other’s opinions.
这有助于更有趣的讨论，从而理解彼此的观点。
Mature individuals also realize that there’s a lot to learn from others.
成熟的人也意识到有很多东西要向别人学习。
Choosing to observe others and listen to what they have to say, gives them a greater opportunity to learn from them, determine their view, and then give a thoughtful response.
选择观察别人，倾听他们的想法，给他们一个更好的机会进行学习，确定他们的观点，然后给予深思熟虑的回应。
FIVE: They Don’t Need Attention & Possess a Sense of Humility
五：他们不需要关注，拥有谦卑的心
Mature people are humble and don’t often seek attention to themselves.
成熟的人谦逊，不常寻求他人的关注。
They realize that they’ve learned from others and can learn more from them as well.
他们意识到自己已经从别人那里学到了很多，而且也会从别人那里学到更多。
They don’t put themselves above others simply because they’ve succeeded, they instead treat everyone with kindness and openness.
他们不会因为成功，就把自己置于他人之上，相反，他们对每个人都很友善和开放。
A mature person can still be confident and proud of their achievements, but they don’t need praise from others to be happy with themselves.
一个成熟的人仍然可以对自己的成就感到自信和自豪，但他们不需要别人的赞扬来为自己感到快乐。
Being proud of themselves is enough.
为自己感到骄傲就足够了。
SIX: They’re Open-minded
六:他们心胸开阔
Time to open your mind!
是时候敞开心扉了!
If you’re mature, you’re often open-minded and respectful of contrasting opinions.
如果你是一个成熟的人，你通常心胸开阔，尊重不同的意见。
Those who are mature realize they shouldn’t be a judge of others and that each individual has different circumstances.
那些成熟的人意识到他们不应该评判别人，每个人都有不同的情况。
There are different struggles each of us goes through, different experiences that lead us to our views.
我们每个人都经历过不同的难事，不同的经历导致了我们各自的观点。
Mature individuals realize this.
成熟的人意识到这一点。
They also realize there’s a lot to learn in life, so it’s best to keep an open mind.
他们也意识到生活中有很多东西要学，所以最好保持开放的心态。
As wise as they may be, they don’t have all the answers!
尽管他们可能很聪明，但他们并没有所有的答案!
SEVEN: They’re Self-Aware & Know When to Hold Themselves Accountable
七：他们有自我意识，知道什么时候该对自己负责
Self-awareness is key in emotional maturity.
自我意识是情感成熟的关键。
A wise person knows that they need to step back from any heated situation and assess their feelings.
明智的人知道在任何激烈的情况下，他们都需要退后一步，评估自己的感受。
They realize each action has a consequence.
他们意识到每一个行动都有一个结果。
Knowing this, they don’t just think about the consequences for themselves, but for others too.
知道了这一点，他们不仅会为自己考虑后果，也会为他人考虑后果。
Their words have weight, their decisions can lead down so many different paths.
他们的话很有分量，他们的决定可能会导致很多不同的结果。
Being aware of this prevents them from making poor choices.
意识到这一点可以防止他们做出错误的选择。
When they do make a bad decision, they have enough self-awareness and humility to admit they’re wrong.
当他们确实做出了错误的决定时，他们有足够的自我意识和也足够谦逊来承认自己的错误。
They hold themselves accountable, adjust their behavior, and take responsibility for their actions.
他们对自己负责，调整自己的行为，并对自己的行为负责。
It’s the mature thing to do.
这是成熟的做法。
So, how mature do you think you are? Do you think before you act? Are you patient? How many promises do you keep?
你觉得自己有多成熟? 你会三思而后行吗? 你有耐心吗? 你信守了多少承诺?
Feel fre e to show your ‘self-awareness’ and take a bit of accountability in the comments down below.
请在下方评论中随时展示出你的“自我意识”以及承担一些责任的事情。
It’s the wise thing to do… - and we’re always here to listen.
这是明智的做法…-我们一直在这里倾听。
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