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Want to build positive relationships? Then make sure not to commit the following 10 things that disrupt relationships:
想有良好人际关系？那就千万别和下面这10件破坏人缘的事沾上边儿：
Giving hurtful comments. Are you hurting others by your lack of tact? You might think that you’re being helpful, but your intentions might have hurt the other party instead. Put yourself in others’ shoes first. If it’s not a comment you appreciate hearing yourself, then perhaps it’s not something others will appreciate either.
出口伤人型。是否因不够圆滑而伤了人？你可能认为你是助人，但适得其反而伤害了对方。将心比心。若该言论难入自家耳，那反之亦然。
Giving solutions when the person is really looking for a listening ear. Probably an understatement: A lot of times what people want is a listening ear. Deep down, people have solutions to the problems they are facing – they are just looking for someone to share their frustrations with because they have had a long and hard day. I had a friend who would always butt in with suggestions whenever I shared my frustrations. Our conversations became stifling – in the end I stopped talking about them altogether because I wasn’t getting the refuge I wanted. Be more conscious of what the other party is looking for, and adjust accordingly to fit that.
不做听众瞎指挥型。保守来说就是：许多时候，人们只想有个倾吐对象。实际上，人对烦恼自有解决之道—过了辛苦，漫长的一天，他们只求一知己宣泄苦闷。我就有个朋友，在我想吐苦水的时候老是打岔，抒发己见。我们谈的了无生趣—最后我索性不再提起，因为此非我心属的喘息之地。要多想想友人之所需，调整自己去配合。
Being judgmental; Thinking you are above others. No one likes to be judged or labeled. If you are constantly judging others for what they do/say, it might be good to reflect that upon yourself. Putting someone off doesn’t make someone a better person; it just makes him/her appear insecure. Humility is a timeless virtue that’s appreciated by everyone.
妄加评论型；自己飘飘然。没人愿被评头论足。如果你总是评论他人的言行举止，那正映衬了你自己。妄加评论并不能让别人进步；反而使其越发不安。谦虚之德总是受人推崇的。
Being defensive to criticism. How well do you respond to criticism? Do you become defensive and wall yourself up? Or do you graciously take it into stride and use the criticism constructively for growth? Learn to deal with critical people – it might be the most important skill you can ever acquire.
无视批评型。你对批评是何态度？是高度戒备，视而不见？还是从容应对，吸取批评，力求进步？学会应对批评自己的人—这可能是你最重要的能力。
Telling people what to do. Most of us don’t like it when people try to boss us around. Learning to energize people and get them on board a common vision is more empowering than trying to order people around.
发号指令型。颐指气使的人一般不受待见。学会调动别人，让其接受日常之事，这可比到处指挥更需要能力。
