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But three minutes later, I go to the fridge again, just to make sure it's still there.
但是在三分钟以后 我回到冰箱那看蛋糕还在不在
Why? Those of you who know my brother understand why. My brother is much bigger than I am.
为什么 你们中认识我兄弟的都明白 我兄弟块头比我大多了
And he likes my mom's cooking no less than I do.
他对我母亲的厨艺的喜爱一点不在我之下
So I was just making sure that it was still there. And it was.
所以我去确定蛋糕还在那 确实还在
And then 10 minutes later, I had to go back because my brother had just disappeared from my eyes a few minutes.
再过了十分钟 我必须再去检查一遍 因为我兄弟在我视线内消失了几分钟
I thought he went to the fridge. So I opened the fridge again and it was still there. So I was relieved.
我以为他到冰箱那去了 所以我又打开了冰箱一次 蛋糕还在 然后我感到一阵轻松
And then about 5 minutes later I had to go back to the fridge.
大约五分钟以后我又回到冰箱那里
I opened the door and two minutes later, there was no cake.
我打开冰箱门 两分钟以后蛋糕就不见了
All or nothing. Either I don't touch it, or I devour it. This is the schema that a perfectionist has.
要么全部要么没有 要么我不碰 要么我吃完 这就是完美主义者持有的基模
It's not "OK, let me have a slice of it." It's nothing or all.
不会说 “好吧 我就吃一块” 要么不吃要么吃完
And this is the schema that perfectionists have: either I'm a supermodel or I'm overweight.
所以这就是完美主义者的基模：我要么成为超级模特 要么超重
All or nothing. And it's destructive. It hurts so much on so many levels. As opposed to the healthy approach.
要么全部要么没有 这是很有破坏力的 这会对我们产生各个层次的严重伤害 相对于健康的方式而言
OK, so I'll have a slice. So I'll have a little bit. OK, so I gained a couple of pounds-big deal?!
好的 我就吃一小块 好的 我重了几磅 这算大事吗
I'm human. I'm not a machine. I'm not a Barbie. Or Ken.
我是人 我不是机器 也不是芭比娃娃 更不是肯
I caught myself there. Hurts self-esteem. Why? Because…
我说错话了 这很伤自尊 为什么 因为
Nathaniel Branden who writes about self-esteem-we'll talk a lot about him in that lecture 3 weeks from now.
纳撒尼尔·布兰登写过很多关于自尊的文字 我们在未来三周内将会更多地讲到他
