Wanting to take revenge is a very human emotion -- instinctual, even.And all I wanted to do for years was to hurt Tom back as deeply as he had hurt me.But had I not found a way out of the hatred and anger, I'm not sure I'd be standing here today.That isn't to say that I didn't have my doubts along the way.When the plane bounced on that landing strip in Cape Town,I remember thinking, "Why did I not just get myself a therapist and a bottle of vodka like a normal person would do?"At times, our search for understanding in Cape Town felt like an impossible quest,and all I wanted to do was to give up and go home to my loving husband, Vidir, and our son.But despite our difficulties, this journey did result in a victorious feeling that light had triumphed over darkness,that something constructive could be built out of the ruins.
