It is Valentine's Day. And here at the NewsHour we want to mark the occasion by hearing from Matthew Hussey.He's a dating coach who tonight offers us his Brief But Spectacular take on modern love.I am known predominantly for dealing with people's relationships.Let's do a little glossary of sorts for the audience. Ghosting.So, ghosting is the term given to someone just falling off of the radar completely.They were talking to you, and now they just vanished.Bread-crumbing is different to the ghost. The ghost just vanishes.The bread-crumber gives you a little bit, and then moves away.So the bread-crumber's like the person who says, hey, how's your week going?And they haven't texted you for three weeks. And then, a month later, they come back and they go, thinking of you.In the dating environment today, sometimes, being higher maintenance is actually the thing that will work better for you.It's this race to the bottom, where everyone thinks that, oh, it's just fast-food dating,Tinder and Bumble and Match and all of these things that I just have to accept whatever treatment I'm given.And if someone wants to meet with me, and it's five minutes from now, I should do it,because, if I don't do it, somebody else will, and this guy seems like a great guy.The only way to stand out in dating today is to actually be more demanding than the next person.When a ship is sinking, and you see everyone running that way, follow the person who's walking that way.
情人节到了。为了应景，今天的《新闻一小时》请来了马修・哈斯。作为约会教练的他，今晚将在《简短而精彩》中分享自己对现代爱情的看法。大家都知道我的职业是处理恋人之间的关系。那我们来为公众扫盲一下术语表吧，先来一个――“玩消失”。“玩消失”这个恋爱术语指的是雷达也拿他/她束手无策的人。上一秒还在跟你聊天，下一秒就人间蒸发了。“玩暧昧”与“玩消失”还不一样。“玩消失”只是人不见踪影而已。而“玩暧昧”则是给人若即若离的感觉。举个例子，“玩暧昧”的那种人可能会问你：嘿，你这周过的咋样啊？然后接下来的3周就不会给你发信息。然后，1个月后，他们又会出现，说什么想死你了。在当今的恋爱大环境下，有时候，严以律已是更适合大家的做法。现在的大环境是逐底竞争，即所有人都会这样想：不过是快餐式约会而已嘛，那无论是Tinder、Bumble还是Match等等，我都会接受，来者不拒。然后，如果有人想跟我约会，而现在只有5分钟了，那我也要赶去，因为如果我不去，还会有别人去，而这个人看起来是个不错的对象。如今，在约会中脱颖而出的唯一方法就是比下一个人要求更高。船在要沉没的时候，如果你看到所有人都往一个方向跑，那么你就应该跟着那个人一起跑。
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