It turns out putting diapers on your head and play-fighting until the kids fall asleep is a great way to love your kids.So, I was learning a lot, but it's not all fun and boogers, is it?I asked a group of stay-at-home parents what's the hardest thing,the thing they underestimated most about being stay-at-home parents,and they said that the loneliness was one of those things.Not having someone else to talk to, feeling inadequate, feeling selfish for wanting me-time. And nursery rhymes suck.Like, really, "Mary Had a Little Lamb" is cool the first couple of times, but after all these years on repeat,you wonder why Mary just ain't make herself a wool skirt and have lamb chops, you know what I'm saying?The one thing I underestimated most was the emotional fatigue.See, I was an artist, so I'd write songs for other artists.Because that's how I made money from home.But when you're with your kids all day, you become emotionally tired.And that means all your creativity comes from your emotions, so you're just tapped out, you're done.So you become done with time.Nap time, time-tables, time-out, time like to cook, with all types of time, you're just done.You had no time for anything. And some people are done with their spouse as a stay-at-home parent.Because the spouse just doesn't get it.I was talking to a friend of mine, he said,"Man, I come home from work, drawers are open, clothes hanging outside the drawers, the kids are still in their pajamas.
原来把尿布套在头上，跟他们打闹游戏直到他们都睡着，这就是爱你的孩子的最好方式。所以，我学到了很多，但带小孩不止是快乐和鼻涕，不是吗？我问了一组全职父母什么是最困难的部分，哪些事情是他们低估了的，他们说，孤单可能算其中的一个。没人可以聊天说话，感觉自己不完整，对需要自我时间感到自私。还有儿童音乐听到吐。真的，比如“玛丽有只小羊羔”开头听几遍还不错的，但是这两年重复的放，我就纳闷了，玛丽为什么不给自己做一件羊毛衫或者搞点小羊排啥的，你们懂我说的吧？我最低估的一件事就是情感疲劳。其实，我以前是个艺术家，我给其它艺人写歌。这使我在家能赚钱养家。但是当你和孩子呆一整天，你的情感会觉得很疲劳。就是你所有的创造力都来自于感情，现在情感的龙头关了，你完了。你觉得被时间所困。瞌睡时间，时间表到时间了，该是去煮饭的时间了，你就是被各种时间所困。最终没有时间做出点什么来。有的人因为全职育儿毁掉了夫妻关系。因为另一半的不理解。我和一个朋友聊天，他说，“哥们，我下班回家，抽屉都开着，衣服摊的到处都是，孩子们还穿着睡衣...
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