worried after reading daughter's email. Dear Annie: I recently came across an e mail from my 15-year old daughter to her 22-year old cousin that was rather revealing.( OK, I was snoop ing.) My daughter," Carlie," was attending a sleepover at a senior girl's house. and it turns out there was alcohol there. She confided in her cousin that a boy( an 18-year old) had kissed her. that she drank a lot but was fine, and that her friend drank too much and got very sick. I 've told no one, not even my wife, what I discovered. Should I say something to the mother of the girl who hosted this sleepover about the underage drinking? I could really use your advice. Talk about the hazards of drinking, especially at her age. and the problems of becoming involved with upperclassmen who expect more than she might be ready to give. Then call the parents of the party giver and tell them you are aware there was underage drinking at their home. and they would be held liable if anything happened. Finally, why was your daughter at that sleepover? As flattering as it may have been for Carlie to be invited to a senior girl's party. it was inappropriate. Sometimes parents need to say no.
